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By China at 8:46 PM

I have a friend who went through a very dark time in her marriage. No one ever knew it was even happening. She kept everything to herself, instead of seeking marriage counseling. She did not have to go to a professional marriage counselor, she could have seen her pastor, or at least consulted some of her Christian friends. Probably most of what she was going through was the same things we all go through, but keeping it to herself made things worse. It only built up resentment and anger and strife towards her husband. And it made me angry with him as well for how she was being treated by him. Luckily, hers was a happy ending, and I will say they are probably the happiest couple I know now. Sometimes I envy her relationship. She tells me she felt the same way back then, that her husband would never want a relationship with God or be involved in church. That she was in it alone, and had to carry the burden of raising their kids in church and go alone, and that they needed a godly man as their father. I am in the same predicament now. She tells me that I have to keep doing it on my own and eventually he will see God in me. I must say I am skeptical, but then again, have seen how her husband has done a 180, and suppose it is possible. I am not saying I need marriage help or someone to help save my marriage. Things are fine, but could always be better. These are the few things that I desperately want, but the few things that I cannot make happen on my own. It is very hard raising children as well as you should, and we make mistakes, I know. I just don't want to scar my children, and I want them to have good examples of marriage and relationships. I mean, I think of my behavior affecting who they choose to marry, and how they will behave as husbands and fathers. It is must more of a challenge than most people put thought in to. Sometimes I contemplate getting marriage counseling, just to see what I may not be doing right, or as a tune up to my marriage.